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Cathy Fyffe

Do you feel like your life is so full, or that you’re so busy, that there’s no time left for you or your relationship. I want to talk about why this is a problem.

So many of us use busy as a way of hiding, or avoiding the stuff that’s not working in our life. Some of us were busy as a badge of honor. “My life so busy, I’m so important, there’s a lot going on.”

We all know that busy can be used as a way of avoiding the hard stuff in our life, particularly in our relationships. If your life is so full of other stuff, that you and your partner are like ships in the night. When your life is full of other stuff, instead of the stuff that actually makes up the two of you, then something needs to change.

Until you create some space and some time to connect, to have the conversations and be a genuine part of each other’s lives, you’re on a road to nowhere. Or you’re on a road where, over time, the nature of your connection is going to continue to erode.

And that’s not what you want. Yes, we live busy and full lives. But we need to prioritise time for connection with the person we’re in relationship with. Otherwise years and years pass and we wake up one day and say, “Who are you? Who is that in the bed next to me, I don’t even know you anymore.”

If this happens,  it’s because you haven’t made the time to connect, value each other and appreciate the two of you as a unit.

So my tip today is stop using busy as an excuse and start to reconnect and make time for the most important person in your life apart from yourself.

 

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