Whether it’s to the house to the kids or to us, the more we’re going to get the behavior that we want. Cathy Fyffe from create a life to love here, today’s relationship, hot tip is to focus on what is working in your relationship.
When things feel struggling, when our partner drives up the wall, or we just think, you know, what am I going to do? One thing that can move, or shift your own feelings about it, is to reconnect to what you like, love All is good about the relationship. And if you still there, there will be things that are working.
And whilst it’s hard when we are in that struggling place to think about what they are, please take that moment to say, what is it that that actually works here? You know, is he a good provider? Does he show up? Does he you know, engage well with the kids? Does he put the beans out? You know, every week? Does he take the dog for a walk? Does he you know, pick up his dirty socks and undies, I don’t know, but what are the things that work for you? What are the things that he does do that actually help or support the relationship?
Now it is easy to go on. There’s absolutely nothing. But I bet you that there will be things that are positive in the relationship, the more we can focus on what’s positive. And not only, you know, bring it to our own mind, but actually acknowledge to our partner the things that we like, enjoy or appreciate about the contribution, whether it’s to the house to the kids or to us, the more we’re going to get the behavior that we want.
So, tip for today is to focus on what is working rather than what’s not working. See if you can come up with three things at a bare minimum, three things that are actually working new relationship to remind yourself of what’s good about it. What What do you love about this man? And why are you still there.
That’s it for today. See you next week.
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