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Cathy Fyffe

With so many of us in lockdown across Australia, I wanted to talk about some of the challenges that you might be facing personally and, in your relationship, and what you can do about it.

The first thing is to bring some compassion to yourself and to your partner, recognizing that everybody is struggling through this time. Many of us are at our wits end, and people are starting to feel flat, depressed, stressed and feeling hemmed in, with nothing to look forward to.  This is starting to take its toll.

I invite you to just pause and find a moment where you can actually say to your partner, “How are you going?” “How are you really feeling”? Rather than the routine “How are you” or assuming you know where they’re at, because you’re with them 24/7 at the moment.  Really create that opportunity to check in and say, “Sweetheart, how are you finding things? “

Then also do the same for yourself. Check in with you and find out where you’re at.

If you’re anything like me, some days we’re up, some days we’re down, and some days we’re just in the middle. Tune into where you’re at, and, and show yourself some compassion. We’re in a very difficult time and it’s okay, to not be okay. The important thing is, if you’re not okay, is to let yourself feel whatever it is that needs to be felt. Don’t push it down, don’t push and think that you have to be a certain way.

Last week, I ended up driving myself away from the house and spending two hours in my car. I took my knitting (daggy, I know), my book, and something to eat. I just needed to get out of the house, because my husband and my two young adult kids are here all the time, and I needed some space.

I invite you to think about some of the things that might make a difference to you.

Also, don’t be afraid to have conversations with each other about what might need to change given the circumstances. So rather than continually continuing to roll as you usually do, some things might need to change, and conversations might need to be had about how you’d like things to be different. Have these conversations from a place where you’re bringing some compassion and care for each other through these challenging times

With so many of us in lockdown across Australia, I wanted to talk about some of the challenges that you might be facing personally and, in your relationship, and what you can do about it.

The first thing is to bring some compassion to yourself and to your partner, recognizing that everybody is struggling through this time. Many of us are at our wits end, and people are starting to feel flat, depressed, stressed and feeling hemmed in, with nothing to look forward to.  This is starting to take its toll.

I invite you to just pause and find a moment where you can actually say to your partner, “How are you going?” “How are you really feeling”? Rather than the routine “How are you” or assuming you know where they’re at, because you’re with them 24/7 at the moment.  Really create that opportunity to check in and say, “Sweetheart, how are you finding things? “

Then also do the same for yourself. Check in with you and find out where you’re at.

If you’re anything like me, some days we’re up, some days we’re down, and some days we’re just in the middle. Tune into where you’re at, and, and show yourself some compassion. We’re in a very difficult time and it’s okay, to not be okay. The important thing is, if you’re not okay, is to let yourself feel whatever it is that needs to be felt. Don’t push it down, don’t push and think that you have to be a certain way.

Last week, I ended up driving myself away from the house and spending two hours in my car. I took my knitting (daggy, I know), my book, and something to eat. I just needed to get out of the house, because my husband and my two young adult kids are here all the time, and I needed some space.

I invite you to think about some of the things that might make a difference to you.

Also, don’t be afraid to have conversations with each other about what might need to change given the circumstances. So rather than continually continuing to roll as you usually do, some things might need to change, and conversations might need to be had about how you’d like things to be different. Have these conversations from a place where you’re bringing some compassion and care for each other through these challenging times

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