“All any of us wants is to love and be loved and to be known and loved for the truth of who we are!” Dr John DeMartini
When I first heard that quote, I had tears running down my cheeks, as that’s exactly what I wanted – To be loved for the truth of who I was. Those words spoke straight to my heart.
I was on a retreat in 2010 and in a dark period of my life. I had felt completely alone in my marriage for many years, misunderstood and unappreciated. The struggles of motherhood, running a business and feeling unsupported in my relationship had taken its toll.
I loved my two kids and my stepson but felt like they literally sucked the lifeblood out of me. I felt like I had nothing left to give. I spent all my energy trying to keep everyone else happy and inside I was miserable.
I was thinking about ending my marriage, even though I desperately wanted to stay married. I loved my husband, but it felt like he didn’t understand me at all. The love, care and support that I wanted to give and receive was smothered in misunderstandings, poor communication, and wounded feelings.
I knew something needed to change. At this retreat, I finally realised that if I wanted my life to be different then I would need to do things differently. I didn’t know what or how. I found the answers though, and it has completely changed my life.
As one of 11 kids, I flew under the radar most of my life. Whilst I had a thriving professional life, I felt I’d lost who I was in my roles of wife and mother. I had allowed my life to become more about others than me and had lost my spark for life. My life and relationship were transformed when I rediscovered the truth of who I was, what was holding me back, and learnt the tools and strategies to put myself back in the driver’s seat of my life.
Thus, began my growth journey – from feeling lost, stuck and alone in my marriage – to a deep understanding of me. To a me I love, and I life I find deeply fulfilling.
I know so many women who feel as I felt and I’m deeply committed to every woman knowing and believing she is absolutely enough, exactly as she is, and that happiness is possible amidst the struggles of family life.
I have formal qualifications in the arts and business and over thirty years’ experience in business and consulting, (some of which I still do, as I thrive on variety) as well as internationally accredited coaching qualifications. If you’re here on this page though, the only thing that really matters, is that I’ve been where you are. I get you. I see you. I have been you.
I’m kind, open hearted and non-judgemental with a huge zest for life. I’m dynamic and caring. I’m practical, down to earth and hugely invested in my client’s wellbeing and getting them results.
I love nothing more than hanging out with my girlfriends or being out in nature. I love travel and new experiences and coming home to base to reconnect to those I love.
I am the mother of two teenagers, stepmother of a grown man and crazy about our dog Oscar.