Cathy Fyffe

Hi everybody, Cathy Fyffe here from create a life to love back with relationship Hot Tip number five.

And today’s tip is really that simple concept of, do you want to be right? Or do you want to be in relationship. And so many of us are committed to being right, to point scoring, to really just needing to make our point, often at the expense of our relationship.

So if our partner doesn’t do something perfectly, or they forget, and we remind them, you know, we take on these personas of being the martyr, you know, we have to deal with everything, we have to be responsible for everything, we have to hold all the information in our head, and they keep getting it wrong. And what happens is, that needs to be right all the time, is actually a big barrier to connection.

So I invite you to ask yourself, How much is it costing you to be right? You know, is it actually costing you the connection you want? And could you consider letting some things go through to the keeper and not doing that I told you so or, you know, you can’t do anything, right. Because if you can let some of that go. You’ll let go of some of the tension that exists between you. And you might open up some space where you actually connect and create a new way of being instead of being committed to being right.

I hope that’s helpful. See you next week.

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